Friendship

Friendship

There comes a time in everyone’s life when they absolutely cannot function without the ongoing support of their friends.  Everyone has their reasons... a death, a divorce, or a medical condition – the reason we need our friends is beside the point. The point is: we need them. And for a time, you have them – they surround you with love, care and support. And a lot of the time I find myself looking at my friends and thinking I honestly would not be here today if it weren't for you. I certainly wouldn't be the person that I am as I write this.

The length people can go to for the sake of friendship is really quite astounding. We spend years dedicating ourselves to creating friendships that we would like to believe will last a lifetime.  And sometimes they do! – And that’s a truly wonderful thing, it really is. But then of course there is the flip side to that – sometimes friendships break down, sometimes over a fight or something equally explosive, but more commonly - they just... fizzle out.

People grow apart.

It’s a sad fact, but it’s more common than we might all like to think. How many of us today can say that we have the same friendship groups that we did five years ago? – I’m going to hazard a guess and say that the answer to that question is:  None. In fact if we all were to look back just one year, we would see that our friendships have changed. They have evolved. Sometimes we grow closer to just one or two individuals, whilst drifting away from others. Or perhaps we become a part of a new “group” choosing to alter the company we keep for a particular reason. But my point is, times change – people change.

We just need to keep up – ultimately, we have choices. And it is not necessarily the people we meet that define who we are, and the way that we feel about our lives. But the people that we choose to keep in it – and those who we actively seek some sort of relationship with. It is those decisions that go a long way to defining our characters, and in some cases, our very nature. The person that we are changes with the company we keep. We adapt, changing our habits, our behaviour in order to “fit in”. But is that really what we all want? Next time you find yourself in a social situation that you aren’t entirely comfortable with; maybe it might be worth your while to question your motives, even just for a moment. I might make you stop and think about the person who you really want to be – and if that action or remark is really “You”...

I know I changed. But will you?

More Soon,

Love Amber

xxx